Unwanted advice ... ugh!

Anyone who knows me really well understands my tendency to 'not want to hear it', meaning advice from people who mean well but who always seem to never engage their 'be nice' filter before they open their gob and release a verbal diarrhoea of "you should do this" and "you should do that" blah, blah, blah!

I recently had one such incident. Before I launch into it and let you know what rubbed me up the wrong way, let me first say that this person (who shall remain nameless) is one of the most supportive, kind people I am lucky to know.

I received my fortnightly phone call from said nameless person and all was cheery and polite until they asked me about how my weight loss was going. I mentioned that it was going extremely well in fact better than I ever anticipated and was very pleased with my progress which was true. Then I was asked how much had I lost and I told them and then, silence for what seemed like an eternity. I then was asked what I wanted my goal weight to be and against my better judgement (should've engaged my blocking filter here), I mentioned a range of 65kg (143lbs) to 79kg (173.8lbs) which according to medical charts is perfect for my age, frame and height. Then again, silence and by now I'm thinking uh-oh here it comes, I've blown up the dam and am awaiting a tsunami of 'you should' and then out it flowed. "You can't go below 90kg (198lbs), you're a tall girl" (I'm 5ft 9"), and blah blah blah, and it went on and on, my ears were burning and I could feel the fire of hell burning in my stomach begging to come out and explode, but I controlled it and changed the subject.

Now normally I'm a pretty laid back kind of person but that speech truly hacked me off! What right did someone who might I add has never had a weight problem, tell me that I am wrong and that I should aspire to be an overweight 90kg (198lbs) chubby!

Weight loss is a personal thing for me and I NEVER offer advice to anyone going through the same thing unless THEY ASK FOR IT! I would however take advice from someone who has been there done that because they know what it's like, they know what it is to wake up every morning and think of nothing but what you can eat that day, it's murder and someone never having that experience doesn't deserve to exert their opinions on you. I like to be a motivator and let people know that they can do it, but I never turn anything I say into a negative hurtful thing, I just hope that those I have said things to have seen me as supportive and not bossy or a bitch!

Anyway what I think is this, I will only take advice from those who I know have been there, all the others, get out of my face and let me get on with it, I am doing it and I'm doing great!

Rant over!